How Addiction Happens

Question by Four Loko: I was the one that was always there… Why did he diss me this way? :(?
I fall in love with my ex bf and was with him for 2years. We been through for so much…! He had a drug problem(crystal meth)and Has been in rehab for a year now. Before he went, he treated me bad, called me names and cheated all the time. He left me for another girl telling me he’s not the one i’m looking for(what)? Since he been in rehab his mother told me he’s doing good and will be getting out in feb. She explained she haven’t heard from his girlfriend in a long while and don’t know whats going on. I told her: “I JUST WANNA LET YOU KNOW THAT I STILL LOVE YOUR SON. REGUARDLESS OF THE ISSUES WE BEEN THROUGH, I’LL ALWAYS HAVE HIS BACK!” She told me: “I ALREADY KNOW, I LIVED REMEMBER.” How does she know this? After all the things her so took her through, how does she know how I feel about her son??? I was so embarrassed! How in the heck does she know? She also texted me this: “I WANNA LET U KNOW THAT I WISH U AND MY SON COULD HAVE MADE IT HAPPEN” I almost cried how do mother know how you feel for their son???

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Answer by JeryE
ha ha. you dated a meth head. how fun was it looking at his face with all those pock marks on it and his black teeth? you must have low standards.

Answer by Dear Jane…
You haven’t let all of this go because you are in love with the IDEA of him and not the actual person. The actual person you think you are in love with sounds like a huge jerk, really. He has no concern for hurting you or others. He has no concern for hurting himself and doesn’t respect his life or anyone else’s for that matter. Every time you even got in the car with him, you risked your own life.

Long story short, I had a good friend who got addicted to meth. He went to rehab, did what he was supposed to for awhile (even tried to work out a relationship with me). But he ended up getting right back on it and guess what…he KILLED someone (over a meth argument) and is now serving a 25 to life sentance. It took me forever to wrap my head around the fact that he actually did it. THEN once I wrapped my head around that…I had to ask WHY would I date someone with that kind of addiction if I didn’t have that problem on my own? It made no sense but I will tell you why: LOW self esteem and low self worth.

Which is what you have going on. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t be pining away after this jerk and you’d be making sure that come February, you are NOT within a means for him to contact you. You are just going to end up hurt when he goes back because he met some chick on the OUTSIDE world of rehab that “reintroduces” the drug in a new way.

-Address YOUR self esteem and self worth NOW, because this pattern shouldn’t follow you throughout life and you deserve better -we ALL do!

-Yes, their moms are nice. My exes mom was an angel, however, she’s not the one with the drug addiction and she’s also not at fault for his (as is your exes mom). They rarely have control over the situation OR their sons NOR will any conversation with her influence HIS decision.

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