For Strong Christians Only–I Need Some Advice Please?
Question by Rosy: For Strong Christians Only–I need some advice please?
Okay, so there’s a guy that I’ve known for a few months and within the last few months we’ve become really great friends. I even believe that he may want to date me. However, every time I think about dating him or become a bit flirty I get this nauseated sick feeling. Normally when I get this, I know it’s God telling me not to do something. It’s like He’s saying “Nope, sorry, can’t go there.”
I’ve been a Christian since I was 4 (I grew up in a Christian home so accepting Christ wasn’t a weird concept for me). I am still a virgin even though I’m 19 and I can, as weird as some of you may think it is, I can “discern” things about other people. I can usually pick up on their spirit (no I’m not a psychic I do NOT believe or approve of that stuff) and God will give me revelation on whether or not they 1.) Need help 2.) Are messing around in stuff they aren’t supposed to (aka witchcraft, addictions, etc 3.) And if I should hang around them. I accepted the Holy Spirit into my life at the age of 8 and can speak in tongues. I try and dedicate my life to God as much as possible by not cussing, drinking, smoking, getting caught up on drugs and sex, and I attend church regularly.
I know some Christians don’t believe in the Holy Spirit nor do they believe in the gifts of the Spirit (I don’t really understand why because Jesus, his followers, and other people who are saved can do these things and it’s written in the Bible) but I can discern things. That’s why I’m confused about this guy.
You see, I have a lot of friends and most of them are not like me. Most of them drink, cuss, have sex all of the time, and smoke (various things) but I really don’t worry about it because I’ve built my rep up so much as a Christian that they all come to me for advice on things.They know I’m the “good girl.” I guess you could say I’m like their counselor/advisor? Anyway, just know it’s not unlikely to see me hang with a bunch of different groups during the day. But I don’t just hang out with anyone. I usually only hang with people God gives me clearance on. And this guy (let’s call him Charles) I’ve got total clearance on for being friends with him. I mean, he used to be heavily into drugs during middle school and high school but now he’s clean. He cusses occasionally (we’re working on that) and occasionally smokes when he’s bored (we’re almost through with working on that ;). However, I’ve had feelings for him for a while now and want to date him (and I know he wants to date me) but I keep getting this uneasy feeling and I know for a fact my parents would freak if we started dating. The only way I can describe the feeling is it’s like watching a scary movie or something and you have that “something bad’s going to happen” sensation. Like you’re going to be sick.
Basically what I’m asking for is can anyone give me some scriptures that might be able to help me through this situation? I want to obey God and do what’s right but I don’t understand why I would be put in a position where Charles can’t date me even though he’s like the God in me and finds me attractive to look at. Why am I being put in this position again? I’ve dated a few guys who had problems with cussing and drinking, being atheist, Buddhist, lost, etc before and after 7 months of dating them they’ve turned over a whole new leaf. One of them is even becoming a missionary and he was the most lost of them all! I have no doubt in God’s mysterious ways and have been blessed enough to see these boys grow to become wonderful men of God.
Just please, I’m a bit confused and upset right now because I really like this guy. He’s so sweet and kind and if he’d just get a few things straight he’d be the perfect boyfriend. He’s already one of the best friends I’ve ever had and he values and respects my opinions. He listens to me and is kind to me and loves my personality. He’s a great friend.
HELP PLEASE! SCRIPTURES WOULD BE NICE!
Best answer:
Answer by brando25
omg just sin and confess and your ok.
Answer by Relationship Troll
“Jesus wept.” Job 3:2. Jesus. You made him cry. ;(
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