Posts Tagged ‘4 months’
How to Stop Addiction: Wife Is an Addict, What Now…?
Question by Eric C: Wife is an addict, what now…?
Ok any attempt to keep this short will fail but i’ll try to use bullet points to minimize length. I am a very intelligent person, street smart, been around the block many times… I pretty much know what i have to do and could give someone else the best advice ever, i just have too many heart strings tied to this to do what i need to do and may just need a push.. I married a woman 1 yr ago after only dating her for 4 months… She told me that she was a recovering addict from xanex and other types of pills and the reason she was using so much is because her ex-fiancee had hung himself in front of her and it was so traumatizing to her. I believed it, she was anit-drug, anti-alcohol. I was very VERY naive to what “addiction” was and the depth and destruction it causes. My friends have been weed users growing up and some of them even did cocaine socially as part of the nightlife but I had never seen or experienced what actual drug addiction was so i wasnt worried so much… We started dating and things were awesome, we are both in our late twentys, and we’re both very attractive, she is model beautiful (which is a curse for her) but anyways, the longer we dated the less i cared about her past addictions and if she had a backache i wouldnt care if she took a vicodin and if she was having anxiety i would get her a xanex, never crossed my mind that it would be a problem and now i know how manipulating addicts can be… Anyways, i got her a job at my fathers country club, waiting tables and she seemed to like it but i would notice her coming home drunk or with alcohol on her breathe. When we first started dating she would still sometimes attend the AA or whatever meetings but they quickly trailed off, but i wondered why if she was anti-alcohol she would be drinking, when i confronted her about it my disaster began… Get ready because things are about to get very very ugly. We got in a physical fight ! Which out of all my relationships, only the relationship right before this one had ever been physical, and i’d never hit a girl until my last girlfriend who literally hit me over 50 times, i finally hit her back and i think she only hit me a few times after that… Anyways, she slapped me and i slapped her back, then a few weeks later my sisters prescription came up missing and on new years eve 09′ we got in another huge fight, she was kicking me in my face while i was driving, telling me she cheated on me 3 times, trying to jump out of the car, going completely crazy, i pulled over and drug her out of the car by her hair, and told her i’d kill her if she didnt stop kickin me in my face and being so crazy (she was driving me crazy and im typically not) so after that, there was a lot of really really appologetic feelings towards eachother, she stepped down from the country club job, we flew to Jamaice and got married… She had promised to never drink or take a pill again, i believed her, and we went on… Kari is bi-sexual and ive always been a sexual guy so we would always talk about having another woman, and we did twice and both times it ended horribly in huge fights and always gets brought up as a reason for her usage etc… Both times were with different friends of hers, she initiated it, set it up, and orchestrated the entire situation while the girls were there, but now says she only did it because i would not mind her drinking or taking xanex if a girl was coming over… Which i did sitll mind, but she would manipulate everything… ugh, anyways. Im only giving these really horrible details because I could hear her now reading this if i didnt saying to me “why dont you put in there about new years, or why dont you put in there about the other girls” so i wanted to make that very clear… Anyhow, she has a 10 yr old son that lives an hour away from where we lived, after she had stolen pills from my sister (whom we were splitting a house with) we moved a block away from her son, she had told me after her ex-fiance killed himself, she was so distraught that her son went to stay with her mom… So she expressed deep pain for the situation and always wanted to see him so i moved us up there, got a house 1 block from her son, and Kari became pregnant. Worst mistake I had ever made moving her back to that town. She began hanging out with her old friends while i was at work, i would come home and she would be rewashing clothes, house would be spotless and she would be FLYING around the house zinging here and there like a mad person. I would find her up at 3,4,5,6 a.m. smoking like over a pack of cigarettes rocking back and forth making bead necklaces and listening to blasting music, eyes bloodshot in desperate need of sleep but not tired, and just mentally being wierd and crazy… i would catch her lying literally EVERY DAY about where she was, or why she was hiding money etc… BLah blha blah, anyways, i found pills around the house all the time, weed pipes, crushed up xanex, vicodins, etc… While she was pregnan
Pregnant and Wrongfully Accused of Drug Seeking?
Question by Amber and jeff: pregnant and wrongfully accused of drug seeking?
Hi! I am very stressed and need advice..here is my store:
I am 34 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child. I also have a 13 month old. Before becoming pregnant with my second child (2months to be exact) I had a laporascopy done for severe endometriosis. During that entire pregnancy I suffered from horrible lower right sided abdominal pain that no one could seem to diagnose. Well after having our daughter we were not planning on having anymore children. Needless to say when she was 4 months old we found out we were expecting again. I then began to see a new doc and suffered the same horrible pain. At 4 months pregnant I had a diagnostic laporoscopy after spending a month in the hospital. This also came up inconclusive. I was then referred to a pain management doc. It took him 10 minutes to diagnose me with abdominal nerve damage due to the first surgery. I then received anesthetic shots in the wall of my stomach off and on to manage the pain along with medication. At 6 months pregent, my husband and I had to move to Nebraska for his career. I encountered so much trouble getting approved for medicaid here and often had to be seen in the emergency room for the pain since we could not afford to be seen in the physicians office. The doctors new my situation and were great at first. One doc saw me more than the others and increased my pain medication stating no pain management doc in nebraska would take me being preggo. I could tell i was becoming physically dependent o the medication and attempted to discuss this with him many times. Finally i said no more meds and called my doc to ask how to safely stop taking them. he told me just to stop and drink plenty of fluids and all would e fine. I did this and got very sick..and he was of no use! We found a place where i could safely detox from all of the medication. i spent 4 embarrassing days there. After about 2 weeks the pain became unbearable so i went to the doc I had been seeing. He was not in so I was seen by another physician. SHe came in and the first thing she said was ” I see you went to rehab for addiction.” I explained the situation and she sent me home screaming and crying refusing to treat me. My husband then took me to another nearby hospital and we explained what had happened. By this point I was also having sever pain in my back as well They did no tests. The doc came in and said “I have spoken with the other physician and we cannot treat you and you will not be receiving anymore narcotics for the remainder of your pregnancy!” I was crying so bad by this point and my husband was angry. We then went to a 3rd hospital where I used my maiden name. Well it turns out I was having contractions that were 3 minutes apart. They had to stop labor! This event has seriously affected me. We are now covered by insurance and trying to find a doc short notice close to us (not from one of th first 2 hospitals). I am soooo terrified of being treated like someone kind of addict. I am seriously have anxiety over this. I am afraid the birth of my baby will be overshadowed by what is now in my medical file when I legitimately did nothing wrong! I have had no medication in months. I have been in horrible pain and suffered through it. I have on appointment on THursday with a doc where I am going to explain all of this to, but I am afraid. Am I doomed to be treated badly?
Pregnant and Wrongfully Labeled a Drug Seeker?
Question by Amber and jeff: pregnant and wrongfully labeled a drug seeker?
Hi! I am very stressed and need advice..here is my store:
I am 34 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child. I also have a 13 month old. Before becoming pregnant with my second child (2months to be exact) I had a laporascopy done for severe endometriosis. During that entire pregnancy I suffered from horrible lower right sided abdominal pain that no one could seem to diagnose. Well after having our daughter we were not planning on having anymore children. Needless to say when she was 4 months old we found out we were expecting again. I then began to see a new doc and suffered the same horrible pain. At 4 months pregnant I had a diagnostic laporoscopy after spending a month in the hospital. This also came up inconclusive. I was then referred to a pain management doc. It took him 10 minutes to diagnose me with abdominal nerve damage due to the first surgery. I then received anesthetic shots in the wall of my stomach off and on to manage the pain along with medication. At 6 months pregent, my husband and I had to move to Nebraska for his career. I encountered so much trouble getting approved for medicaid here and often had to be seen in the emergency room for the pain since we could not afford to be seen in the physicians office. The doctors new my situation and were great at first. One doc saw me more than the others and increased my pain medication stating no pain management doc in nebraska would take me being preggo. I could tell i was becoming physically dependent o the medication and attempted to discuss this with him many times. Finally i said no more meds and called my doc to ask how to safely stop taking them. he told me just to stop and drink plenty of fluids and all would e fine. I did this and got very sick..and he was of no use! We found a place where i could safely detox from all of the medication. i spent 4 embarrassing days there. After about 2 weeks the pain became unbearable so i went to the doc I had been seeing. He was not in so I was seen by another physician. SHe came in and the first thing she said was ” I see you went to rehab for addiction.” I explained the situation and she sent me home screaming and crying refusing to treat me. My husband then took me to another nearby hospital and we explained what had happened. By this point I was also having sever pain in my back as well They did no tests. The doc came in and said “I have spoken with the other physician and we cannot treat you and you will not be receiving anymore narcotics for the remainder of your pregnancy!” I was crying so bad by this point and my husband was angry. We then went to a 3rd hospital where I used my maiden name. Well it turns out I was having contractions that were 3 minutes apart. They had to stop labor! This event has seriously affected me. We are now covered by insurance and trying to find a doc short notice close to us (not from one of th first 2 hospitals). I am soooo terrified of being treated like someone kind of addict. I am seriously have anxiety over this. I am afraid the birth of my baby will be overshadowed by what is now in my medical file when I legitimately did nothing wrong! I have had no medication in months. I have been in horrible pain and suffered through it. I have on appointment on THursday with a doc where I am going to explain all of this to, but I am afraid. Am I doomed to be treated badly?
Muslim Brothers I Really Need Help Please?
Question by Abbas Darwiche: Muslim brothers I really need help please?
Ok so Im a 13 year old boy, turning 14 in about 4 months. I’ve had my wet dream a few weeks ago. Now I have a serious problem with masturbating, I do it like once every 3 days, how do I quit? I don’t want to sin!
I pray 4 times a day (make up for fajr)
I read quran every sunday
I have muslim friends
but you see masturbating is just like having sex without marriage so its a big sin, PLEASE help me muslim brothers on how to stop my “addiction” on masturbating and become a better muslim. remember im 13.
Best answer:
Answer by HeMan
It’s natural. Just enjoy it. Any one that tells you otherwise is a hypocrite.
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Muslim Brothers Please Help Me?
Question by Abbas Darwiche: Muslim brothers please help me?
Salamualaikum, so Im a 13 year old boy, turning 14 in about 4 months. I’ve had my wet dream a few weeks ago. Now I have a serious problem with masturbating, I do it like once every 3 days, how do I quit? I don’t want to sin!
I pray 4 times a day (make up for fajr)
I read quran every sunday
I have muslim friends
but you see masturbating is just like having sex without marriage so its a big sin, PLEASE help me muslim brothers on how to stop my “addiction” on masturbating and become a better muslim. remember im 13.
Oh and how do I keep away from everyday sins since I live in Australia, for example if a girl is wearing tight jeans how do I look away not stare?
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Muslim Brothers Please Help Me Its Serious?
Question by Abbas Darwiche: Muslim brothers please help me its serious?
Ok so Im a 13 year old boy, turning 14 in about 4 months. I’ve had my wet dream a few weeks ago. Now I have a serious problem with masturbating, I do it like once every 3 days, how do I quit? I don’t want to sin!
I pray 4 times a day (make up for fajr)
I read quran every sunday
I have muslim friends
but you see masturbating is just like having sex without marriage so its a big sin, PLEASE help me muslim brothers on how to stop my “addiction” on masturbating and become a better muslim. remember im 13.
Best answer:
Answer by Lilmissykato ND
Do you shower after?
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